Today, I learnt of a new defence mechanism people use to defend themselves. It is called “projection”.

In psychology, psychological projection (or projection bias) is a defense mechanism in which one attributes one’s own unacceptable or unwanted thoughts and/or emotions to others.
Source: Wikipedia

It is very interesting indeed. Have you ever came across a time that someone said that you are to blame when you have done nothing wrong (and you know that person who accused you did the error himself) and find it so contradicting as why someone would blame you for something they have done? Basically, we have to understand, they are actually defending themselves from their own mistake.

I came across instances whereby my friends were talking about a person shifting the blame to everyone around him when he is gulity of the vices. They can’t help it but find it quite frustrating when he would not admit he is in the wrong!

Projection, like all defense mechanisms, provides a function whereby a person can protect their conscious mind from a feeling that would otherwise be repulsive.

The thing about humans is that we have this thing called the “ego”. Many of us are controled by this ego, it can also be called a monster (in other words). The more we listen to it, the more we are enslaved to our ego. Our defense mechanisms are built in a way so that our ego (pride) would not be hurt. The only way to be freed is to “destroy the ego”. How do we do that? I will talk about it next time…

The next time someone accuses you or something that you did not do, reflect on it and try to see if it fits the person who is accusing you of the vice (and 99% of the time, the person is actually guilty of the deed).

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